We are not Chocolate which is a food.
We are not Brown which is a color.
We are not Hershey which is a candy.
We are not Cocoa which is a bean.
We are not Coffee with is a drink.
We are not Topaz which is a gem.
But we ARE dark women.
Is it just me or are many of our dark girls plagued by a low sense of self-worth?You don’t hear many Black men, if any, calling themselves a “chocolaty brother”.
Why do we have to pretty up the fact that we are dark skinned?We are all black women but us dark girls act as if being dark is something we should feel bad about, be ashamed of. We insist on calling ourselves brown skinned, chocolaty (like Kelly Rowland did), or cocoa colored. You don’t hear lighter skinned black girls calling themselves café au lait, tan, or buff? You don’t hear white people calling themselves vanilla, milk, or cloud colored?
We are dark skinned. It doesn’t matter if you’re Meagan Good’s color, Alek Wek’s color, or anything in between. We are all still dark. Accept it as a part of your looks and move on.
Only then can you embrace the things that traditionally make women attractive. (A topic I will discuss in a later post.)
There are pretty dark girls, there are plainer dark girls, but being self-conscious about skin color makes any girl ugly.