Wednesday, March 13, 2013

Are we Dark Skinned or 100 other colors that hide our shame?

We are not Chocolate which is a food.
We are not Brown which is a color.
We are not Hershey which is a candy.
We are not Cocoa which is a bean.
We are not Coffee with is a drink.
We are not Topaz which is a gem.
But we ARE dark women.

Is it just me or are many of our dark girls plagued by a low sense of self-worth?
Why do we have to pretty up the fact that we are dark skinned?
We are all black women but us dark girls act as if being dark is something we should feel bad about, be ashamed of. We insist on calling ourselves brown skinned, chocolaty (like Kelly Rowland did), or cocoa colored. You don’t hear lighter skinned black girls calling themselves cafĂ© au lait, tan, or buff? You don’t hear white people calling themselves vanilla, milk, or cloud colored?

You don’t hear many Black men, if any, calling themselves a “chocolaty brother”.

We are dark skinned. It doesn’t matter if you’re Meagan Good’s color, Alek Wek’s color, or anything in between. We are all still dark. Accept it as a part of your looks and move on.

Only then can you embrace the things that traditionally make women attractive. (A topic I will discuss in a later post.)

There are pretty dark girls, there are plainer dark girls, but being self-conscious about skin color makes any girl ugly.

Saturday, March 2, 2013

Black Men Go to Brazil because the Pretty Dark Girls are disappering.

Watch this video below. It's the latest example of what good men are missing. Good Black men and good Black women are on islands, they are out there but oftentimes they seem to have a hard time finding each other. Our solution, let your Pretty Dark Girl flag fly. Continue to be friendly, polite, and approachable when out and about. We don't want good men going off to Brazil if we can offer them the same treatment.

Friday, October 12, 2012

Lack of Progress: Calling out Ebony and Essence

Normani Hamilton
The X Factor songstress epitomizes beauty with her subtle makeup and chic top

Where have all the young talent gone? People, Vogue, and Latino Magazine publish articles and pictures of their young starlets, they put them on their covers; but alas, we don’t do the same in our community. How is it that Essence and Ebony have been repeating the same old actresses and other celebs year after year after year.  Frankly, I am tired of it. I’m tired of seeing the endless rotation of Nia Long, Denzel, and Michelle Obama.

Would it hurt Black magazines to publicize a new generation of singers, actors, and models?

Let’s start out with this pretty dark girl?

Saturday, October 6, 2012

Pretty for a Dark Girl?

Have you ever wandered over to Youtube and typed 'pretty dark girl' in  the search engine?  I did. I was bored one day, killing time while waiting for an appointment and randomly keyed it in. The results turned out to be pleasing, but there were two irritating points that kept showing up on screen.

I clicked on a few videos and was often welcomed by unquestionably attractive girls, and interestingly they weren’t just pretty faces, they could obviously hold their own in a conversation too.

They were kind of like those beauty pageant winners who ended up giving the best answer to some international relations
question. Yeah they were like that, but cooler and more relatable—more ‘real’.

I could have continued on, mindlessly video surfing but I paused when I noticed two words kept popping up on the videos. Instead of seeing videos titled ‘Pretty Dark Girl’ I saw ‘Pretty for a Dark Girl’ instead.
Herein lies the problem and I suppose the chance for possibilities. The problem, we all realize, is that when anyone says ‘pretty for a (insert your own) girl’ we’re implying that a girl with that feature isn’t supposed to be pretty. So when a fine Michael Ealy look-a-like or a Flava Flav impersonator takes a moment to verbalize your beauty by saying “Eh—you pretty for a dark girl,” they are also saying dark girls aren’t usually pretty.
It is this misconception that propelled Pretty Dark Girl onto the online masses. We will post the reality of dark beauty, which is far more stunning than many can even imagine. This site is the best place for editorials, fashion, beauty, and videos that captivate brown beauty at its finest.
To our readers of every background and hue, welcome and spread the word so that eventually more of the uninformed will look at a beautiful face covered in any rich shade of coffee colored skin and say to themselves or to the object of their affection, “What a pretty dark girl” or better yet “What a pretty girl.”